A reader asks: “Does love really conquer all? How do we know when or if we should stop trying to love our abuser?”
How would you feel if you found out much of what you had been taught your entire life about marriage and male/female relationships was a lie?
Emotional abuse that involved another person using God or His Word as a weapon of control is also called SPIRITUAL ABUSE, and this type of abuse is horrific in its potential to destroy one’s faith in God.
The Religious Leaders gnashed their teeth at Jesus when He healed on the Sabbath. How dare He break their Sabbath Laws? Today they gnash their teeth at Christian women when they flee destructive marriages. How dare they tell the truth about the broken marriage vows they lived with?
We erase mistakes. We delete irrelevant material. We edit out unimportant points.
But have you ever been erased by someone?
There was once a Christian woman who got married. Shortly after her wedding day, she was attacked by her husband. He took her dignity and reputation, shamed her, blamed her, treated her like his property, and left her half-dead, alone in her home.
Someone who is truly sorry will not make excuses, blame you or something else, rationalize their behavior, or justify what they did. If a person is doing any of those things, they are not sorry. Period.
Reconciliation is not a requirement. It’s the desired outcome, but it can only truly take place when four things have happened.
We want to believe we live in an advanced civilization—one that has risen above the base prejudice of our unenlightened ancestors. Human beings have a bent to marginalize other people. We want to be the best Sneetches on the beaches, after all.
“Deliver us from evil” is part of the Lord’s Prayer. It’s something Jesus told us we should pray for regularly, so it’s obviously God’s will for us. Yet it’s astounding how many Christians think it is some kind of spiritual exercise in becoming a “living sacrifice” to daily expose oneself to evil—as long as the evil is your spouse. In… Read More